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WeWaited.com was inspired by our founders, husband and wife, both virgins up to their wedding date, who thanks to their firm spiritual faith values, their mutual commitment, love, care, living the hard times together, etc., formed a strong pillar in their relationship and their marriage has kept them very much together as a result of those elements. Virginity played an important role, since they saw it as a gift which they in turn shared as the greatest intimate marriage gift that they had reserved it for each other and for no one else. This gesture had an effect for they appreciated each other even more. In turn they used their own lives as a model to develop this website and eventually its sister website WeAbstain.com for singles who may or may not be virgins, but who are abstaining until marriage. As a result of the creation of WeWaited.com, we now have a convenient online meeting place geared mainly towards those virgins who value marriage, where virgin men can meet virgin women and vice versa that will hopefully give them the opportunity to culminate as solid couples like our founders.
We do not promise that every single member that has joined us and meets his/her soul mate through our website will not terminate in divorce. Yet based on evidence, they will have greater probabilities of enjoying a successful marriage if they wait prior to their wedding date. Benefits associated with abstinence are fewer divorces, better quality of life at the family and social levels to the married couple as well as to any children involved.
Intimacy, which is a beautiful human element, has been the driving force for many singles to not abstain until marriage. This human element along with other ongoing nurturing elements are no less beautiful for those who abstain. The main difference is that a single person, who waits, has a better probability backed by a strong statistical evidence, of enjoying a better and a more solid life as a married person than as a person who does not abstain prior to marriage.
A virgin person is someone who has never taken part in gamete donations or in interpersonal situations where a person contacted another person’s gametes, nor has sexually participated personally or assisted by objects in same sex or heterosexual acts involving either sexual penetration or other types of intimate contact via face to face or through remote means* and whose first intimate act, if it ever takes place serves as the limit to his/her innate sexual innocence, with the act ranging from being a worthless sexual act, to one involving intercourse where the innate sexual innocence is shared as evidence of love which could be used as the greatest gift of marriage in the intimate form, that no subsequent intimate acts can provide because of their lack of innocence.
Nonetheless, even if virginity is shared as the greatest gift of marriage in the intimate form, this will have little or no significance if it is not seen as such by the person receiving the gift. Likewise, it will have no significance upon marriage if shared in isolation of other elements like an ongoing mutual care, trust, commitment, prayer, etc., prior to and during marriage.
The aim of our website is to use virginity (which we regard as an extra beautiful attribute that only virgin people possess) as a significant compatibility tool and also hopefully as an abstinence means that someday can be shared as a mutual precious gift of marriage unless our member chooses to share that precious gift with someone who is not virgin yet truly practices abstinence for marriage.
Whatever choice you make it is important, whether you decide to wait or not. The outcome of your choice will have an impact in your life and the life of others, the better the choice and the better the quality of life that it will bring to your marriage and any person(s) associated with it. We hope and pray that you choose the best alternative. If you get well informed, we have no doubt that you will arrive at the conclusion that abstinence prior to marriage is the choice that it will most likely help you land based on statistics and other nurturing elements to a stronger, healthier, and happier marriage. If you do not believe us, we invite you to do the homework, before committing for life on the important and beautiful step of getting married, assuming that that is the road you want to take.
FROM OUR FOUNDERS:
We believe that the intimate innocence of a virgin person is a gift from God. If this innocence is not taken for granted, it can surely be used as an important tool to build strong marriages when combined with love, commitment, care, prayer, etc. Of course, we respect how our virgin applicants or members decide to use their innocence. One thing we know for sure, we are blessed to have an online home for virgin members. We are privileged for their beautiful presence.
We would like to invite our virgin visitors, whether they become members or not, to please not take your innocence for granted. Hopefully, someone will treasure your innocence and you. We are also blessed with our non-virgin visitors. We hope that you pass the word around so that more virgin people can come to their home, We Waited.
TO ALL OUR GUESTS:
When we developed this website our intent was to have an online place where virgin people would meet. Two unintended outcomes came out as a result of our intent. First, we gave the impression to some that we did not want to admit non virgins on purpose. Leaving non virgins out on purpose was not and it will not be in our minds. Second, by admitting virgins only some got the impression that virgin people are good and perfect while non virgins are not. We want to clarify that we admit virgins simply in that they meet our virginity requirement, and not on that they are better that non virgins. To us virgins and non virgins are equally beautiful.
We also need to clarify that whoever joins us thinking that virginity alone will lead them to solid and happy marriages, our response to them is not. Our stand is that while virginity surely adds strong foundations (based on research), there are other aspects that need to be present such as commitment, care, love, prayer, conflict resolution, etc. that will lead virgin people to solid marriages. As to research, this has clearly shown that people who abstain (including virgins) have a higher probability to sustain lasting and happier marriages than those who do not.
*By intimate acts... through remote means we mean intimate interaction between two or more people carried out through non-personal means such as the phone, virtual means, "sexting", IM, 3D, etc.